Please pray for Sonia, she's broken beyond words

 

This is probably how Sonia would feel when next she goes to that particular church, but e sure for me, except she's getting married, I don't know what will take her there. So sorry dearie. (Photo credit: I don't even know)

Imagine you walking into church and all eyes are on you simply because your own mother has made you a topic of discussion? Well my mom used to use me as example in her Sunday School classes but this one is gross, I feel for this girl.

Sonia called me earlier today to rant, she needed someone to talk to and I’m glad she trusted me enough to share her burden. Someone else would think she’s overthinking this but we handle situations differently, here’s her story, and yes, she gave me permission to write about it.

Sonia is the first of two children; she has a younger brother who is still in the university. She is beautician, she has her own line of skincare products, organic stuff that ladies use and she’s not doing badly for herself because she can take care of her basic needs.

Sonia has a “paranoid” mother (in her own words) and that’s where half or more of the problems come from, her mother practically thinks she’s irresponsible for studying Mathematics from Unilag and opting not to hustle 9-5 with the certificate.

Most of us have parents who decided what we studied in school, choice of institution and even to some extent, life partners and as we all know such arrangement would be full of hits and misses, it’s not going away anytime soon because some of us wouldn’t let our children choose.

Personally, if I ever have a male child, he’s coming into the world to fulfil my #ProjectMbappe, it’s not up for discussion, he can decide which club he wants to play for but he must play professional football, not negotiable and that stays like that.

Sonia’s case is weird in a way; her mother retired from Union Bank and she believed Sonia would take up a banking job, my friend has other ideas and her mother isn’t having it, she has done everything possible to embarrass her, the one that happened this morning was the height.

I forgot to mention, Sonia is from a roman catholic family and today happens to be Ash Wednesday, which means there was a mass at their cathedral earlier today. Sonia said her mother went to church this morning with a placard that reads “PRAY FOR MY DAUGHTER, SHE HAS DECIDED TO BE A PROSTITUTE”…

Sonia is hardworking, one her mother should be proud of but the poor woman doesn’t understand that not everyone is destined to be a corporate worker, Sonia doesn’t belong to the urgent 2k category, she fends well for herself and she’s doing amazingly well… She was broken beyond words.

Imagine friends calling you, sending you pictures of your mother carrying such placard and asking people to pray for you for such, I did my best to calm her down while hoping Fred (her boyfriend that is my friend) sees to it that she gets over this incident in one piece.

It’s a culture that we have to unlearn, again I must say I’m not the right person to address this because #ProjectMbappe must happen, even if I don’t have a male child in two attempts, I’ll adopt and he already has a career, but I’m sad for Sonia.

Oh, you’re running through my friend list to figure who Sonia is? Of course that’s not her real name, you don’t rate me at all o, so you expect me to use her real name? But if you’re my friend, you’ll already know who “Sonia” is, you probably know her struggle too.

While we’re hoping more Sonia’s pop up with knowledge for self reliance and legit hustles, mamma is here making her feel like she’s incomplete because she’s not interested in 9-5 job, does she know how many 9 to fiver that are miserable and would rather do something else?

Most corporate folks I know have a side hustle they’re investing into and would definitely dump this corporate crap for it as soon as they have a sound footing, or you don’t know is daily bread that makes many stick to “kindly find attached”?

Lol Tiwalade is spending fortune trying to become a skincare mogul, Bennie owns Springers24 and Local Man Clothing, Seemi Pleasures is owned by an agency lady and Tunde Black runs errands on clothing matters when he’s not setting up events for Monetium, mamma has to wake up mhen.

I feel for Sonia and I’d love to read from y’all, did anyone influence what you studied in school? Are you married to your friend or who your people want? Tell me about it and remember to leave your name behind, kindly pray for my friend, she’s broken.